I T’ S O K A Y
In our lives, our situations and our expectations do not always match up. Often, there is a gap between what we expect and what we experience. A gap between what we hope to see and what we actually see. A gap between what we thought would happen and what actually happened, between how we envisioned things to pan out and how they really did. It’s amazing when our experiences soar high above what we could have hoped for, but if we’re being realistic, it can feel, in some seasons more than others, like our experiences often fall short of our expectations. Unmet expectations and disappointments are inevitable in our day-to-day lives (whether we’re talking careers, plans, education, achievements or relationships) some will be minor and others will be major. Some disappointments can hurt us momentarily and temporarily, whereas others will carry profound gravity and depth – requiring real surgery, care, love, sensitivity and healing of the heart.
We all deal with disappointments, how will we respond?
Naturally, hurt and disappointment can lead us to a place of frustration. We feel sorry for ourselves and adopt a new attitude of expecting the worst. When things don’t go the way we hoped, planned or anticipated, we can become disheartened and begin to lower our expectations (of ourselves, others and God) and even convince ourselves that we never deserved our ‘Plan A’ in the first place. As you read this, you may be standing in a different place than you thought you would be standing in. You may have been betrayed, let down or living in a different reality than you planned to be living in.
Hey, so your plans have changed & you’re not where you thought you’d be,
but I T’ S O K A Y
You are exactly where you are supposed to be .
Here’s where the truth comes charging in: God is going to replant, realign and re-purpose you. So try your best not to get too stuck in the reason [behind your disappointment]… or you might just miss the revelation that he has coming for you. Try your best not to resent what you didn’t get or you might just miss all the goodness that’s around you. Remember, above all, that God is strong enough to hold up and meet your expectations. He’s big enough and he loves you more than enough to fulfill all his promises to you. You didn’t get your ‘Plan A’ but that’s okay, because God’s plan is far better and your situation will, in fact, enable your revelation.
It had to pass through the hands of the Father to get to you.
We can be at peace and at ease knowing that we’re exactly where we’re supposed to be. How do we know this? Because everything that happens to us must first pass through the hands of the Father in order to reach us. Knowing that his firm hand is in control allows us to live in full contentment and gives us the full freedom to release all bitterness, hurt and any disappointment. This is a very powerful state of being and living. The truth is, we will all experience broken promises at the hands of broken people (and broken circumstances) in a broken world, but we can surely trust that God will never hurt us, abandon us, forsake us, betray us, disappoint us or let us down.You’re not where you thought you’d be, but it’s okay. In fact, it’s more than okay – he is still with you. The god of hope leans in with love.
So do not diminish your expectations.
You do not serve a God who meets your expectations.
He exceeds them.
Allow your hope to be raised and resurrected again.
“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways.
For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways
And My thoughts higher than your thoughts.
For as the rain and snow come down from heaven,
And do not return there without watering the earth, making it bear and sprout,
and providing seed to the sower and bread to the eater,
So will My word be which goes out of My mouth;
It will not return to Me void, without accomplishing what I desire,
and without succeeding in the matter for which I sent it.
For you will go out with joy and be led forth with peace;
The mountains and the hills will break forth into shouts of joy before you,
And all the trees of the field will clap their hands.
Instead of the thorn bush the cypress tree will grow,
And instead of the nettle the myrtle tree will grow;
And it will be a memorial to the Lord,
For an everlasting sign [of His mercy] which will not be cut off.”
Be sure to go check out ‘The Expectation Gap’ preaching series by Pastor Steven Furtick.